Socialization is one of the most important parts of
any child’s life on a daily basis no matter wherever places they would be.
Children as young individuals are socialized by different people especially
those with their age group that they are surrounded with. This includes children of their age, beyond
their age and adults that are connected
and related to them. Playing is one of the means of children’s act of
socialization as this covers the part of their developmental stage and
As stated in
Significance of Friendship page 112-113 “Children engage in them with other
children, and in many instances, these
children would describe one another as their ‘friends’. Our youngest
members of society see their companions in playtime as their usual buddies as
they are in their pre-gang stage. It is the time in which the more children they
can get along with play will stand as the symbol to keep them contained with
their playmates. They consider other children who have the same interest with
them as their regular companion until they established a good relationship of friendship even though
they do not fully understand what ‘friends” means to them.
As mentioned in 3.1
Children’s experience of friendship means a psychological understanding
not only for adults but for the children’s best
According to Robert Selman “, He put forward the hypothesis that
the development of children’s conceptions of friendship would relate closely to
the more general development of social understanding, in other words, the ways in which children construe,
interpret and represent other people’s points of view.”
His hypothesis in the concept of friendship among children varies from ages of every child. Primarily the level of understanding of
friendship among children is the benefit of the happiness on their end. The
means does not justify the importance yet for these young members of our
Based on Robert
Selman’s different levels of skill in taking a social perspective among
children he viewed the following: 1) Momentary physical playmate; it is the
stage among children 3-5 years of age in which it means the ‘I play with you,
you play with me” scenario in every child. Whoever comes in their way as long
as they enjoy the moment of characterization of the play, they would enjoy it. 2) One-way assistance; among children
of 6-8 years old ages socializes in a win-win
situation in which they consider having friends is a beneficial factor only.
That their friend will do good things to them only as they are in their “psychological
gang stage”. It means they are starting to find out who among their friends
would be good to them and not; and only those who are good that they will keep.
cooperation; is a part of their
stages in which they learn to face the little by little the realities of friendship. They argue they fight, they get jealous of attention and others. Thru these
different emotions that they eventually learn that children start to build
emotions to establish the real importance of friendship as part of their lives.
At this age, they can eve declared or
determined the term “best friend” as their best buddy as years go by in their
lives. 4) Mutual concern; at this
stage as considered as a final stage of
their childhood they see friendship as part of their individuality and
personality. They see other mutual friends as a bond
of the totality of their personality.
According to Selman, he sees children’s friendship
developing in a linear and systematic fashion. It simply means as the child
goes with his or her age his perceptions of
the importance of every individual who is part of their environment matters a lot to
each child. Thus, environment explains
how conventional and innovative it is nowadays. Visual images play an important
role in influencing manner of the relationship
between children and even adults too.
What children see serves as their model regardless
of the impact it will implicate to the. As
they go through their developmental stages the developmental tasks happen also
in which they familiarize themselves on how to manage lifelong process not only in terms of friendship but as an
individual is managing their
socialization aspect in life.
On page 118, it was
mentioned about the sociological understanding among friends to children.
Playing stands as important role as a tool
among children in socialization. They use play as interactions in finding
friends. The more interactive the games or plays for the children, the more
they get the chance of interaction and finding compatible children of interest
that they consider as their friends.
Having friends or establishing friendship relationship
children simply implicates the needs of socialization. It I somehow related to
the symbiotic relationship of human in which starts as they learn to explore
their environment and to discover themselves. Being mentioned that the
relationship among human is comparatively universal with each other. The age,
gender, interests, culture are some of the primary factors in establishing a relationship and how an individual at very young age interacts with his environment in the
process of learned or acquired social skills.