almost always complicates the relationship between people. Each person lies from the moment he realizes
that it can be done. It is not always pleasant to tell the truth. However,
lying is rarely the right way to protect. Since childhood, parents have
taught us not to lie, and it is not always so easy, even with age, but you can
restrain yourself from lying by working on yourself.
Understand the cause of the lie
Before you learn how not to lie, you need to understand the
reason why you hide the truth. There can be several. Sometimes people
lie to provoke others to do something. In this case, you have since
childhood come to the realization that it is easier to lie once and achieve
what you want than to go on a long and honest path. But working on yourself can really change your life, and for this you do not need
to hide something.
The second reason that
causes lies is to show oneself on the advantageous side. That is, you do
this in order to become competitive and look better. Another reason why a
person can hide the truth is consolation. Problems stop worrying, and
people are not nervous anymore, having assured themselves and others in the well-being
of the situation.
Plan to control yourself
To stop lying, you need to approach your
actions methodically, which means that you need a plan. Pay attention to
whom you are lying to and in what situations. You will be surprised, but
the lie appears naturally. It provokes, for example, failures at work or
study, feelings that you are experiencing for some person, or you hide the
truth from specific people. You can conclude, for example: failure at work
makes me lie to my father that everything is fine. I do not hide the truth
from others. So, we need to eliminate the problem: to change the place of
work to where you will get everything, or to go to a training session in order
to gain experience and improve your situation. And your father will be
able to truthfully say that you are working on complexities and are improving.
Reluctance to tell the truth can speak of a
strong dependence on someone else’s opinion. Analyze your feelings,
remember what your fears provoke you to hide the truth, and start working on
yourself. If you really are afraid of ruining someone else’s opinion of
yourself, think: is it worth it? After all, because of disapproval of
society, you can ruin your dreams. Work on yourself if you feel that you
are strongly dependent on someone else’s opinion .
It is human behavior, we are dissatisfied with
his personal life, work, financial situation, etc., we dreams how we could
change everything, but does nothing for it. If you think that in your life you need to change something, pay
attention, don’t postpone it to future for better timing.