Counseling is the aspect of ministry that I am excited about starting. I like how it is put in a pastoral counseling thesis by Craig Younce. “Pastoral counseling opportunities are divine appointments with individual members of the church community” (Younce, 2011) As humans, we have had a sin nature from the very beginning. We all have fallen into situations where we needed to speak to someone about the issues in that situation. God puts in certain people in positions and places where we have the opportunity to counsel or have a positive impact in a person’s life. I have been a law enforcement officer for 16 years and I wear many hats in that profession. A counselor is a hat I have worn many times, but not from a pastoral perspective. Since my calling into ministry I have noticed that when I speak to people in my profession I use a pastoral aspect, when I can. Counseling in a pastoral function is different from other types of counseling. Unlike a secular counselor, pastoral counseling is part of a pastor’s job description and it sometimes can play a larger role than other roles that the pastor has. As a pastor, duties include loving, protecting, and caring for those in the congregation. Pastoral counseling must be counseling that is rooted in the Bible.
I highlighted the following text in one of our textbooks. “Theology matters. Understanding people biblically matters. Biblical counselors pursue compassionate and wise counseling where our love abounds in the depth of the knowledge about the heart in the world. Our depth of knowledge of people starts with knowing and applying the written Word and knowing personally the living Word. It then moves us to knowing people originally designed—Creation.” (Gospel-Centered Counseling, 2014) Scripture tells us that each of us is uniquely created by God. “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” (Holy Bible; NIV, 2013) I took me awhile to figure out who I was in God and what God created me to do. As we lead those being counseled to find who God made them to be, we allow them to let God show them how to resolve issues on their own.
Counseling in ministry utilizes scripture, explaining and applying them to the counselee’s life. Sometimes this comes in the form of correcting and training of the people that need counseling. “All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work”. (2 Timothy 3:16)
Another great aspect of pastoral counseling is that the pastor can have a relationship with his counselee that remains in place outside the sessions. The pastor can observe and follow the progression of the church members that he/she counsels. If the pastor is counseling someone in the same church the pastor can demonstrate a Christ-like example for the counselee. If questions arise about the progression of the relationship the pastor can seek the advice of others in the church such as deacons and senior leadership, always keeping in mind whatever confidentiality agreement the pastor has with the counselee. “Without consultation, plans are frustrated, But with many counselors they succeed.” (Holy Bible; NIV, 2013) The pastor and counselee can pray and serve in a variety of ministries together.
Negative aspects of pastoral counseling exist as well. Sometimes the pastor is overwhelmed with many tasks and should be mindful not to take on more than they can handle. Many churches split the counseling responsibilities among other pastors who are comfortable with counseling. Care must always be given to avoid counseling situations that possibly lead to sin. Pastors should not counsel the opposite sex alone and need to put in place safeguards for those situations. The pastor must be careful that a dependent relationship doesn’t occur between the pastor and the people they are counseling. The counselor should provide guidance to the counselee for sole dependence on God and His word.